Why does a man drink when? Psychological reasons: why a man drinks. Biological causes of alcoholism

In Russia, alcoholism among men is very developed. When a person begins to abuse alcohol, one should start sounding the alarm. According to statistics, every year a huge number of people die in the country due to addiction to alcohol.

Alcoholism has several stages. If at the first stage a person is able to get out of this hole on his own, then the second and third are already a serious addiction that has.

Holidays and bright life events are only for healthy people - a reason to relax a little. And for a male alcoholic, this is a reason to have a global binge. And within a few days.

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Such binges can continue for a long time. And it is very difficult to stop an alcoholic. Moreover, he never admits that he needs treatment.

The man really considers such binges to be normal and claims that he is in complete control of the situation. In reality this is not the case. After waking up, the first thought in an alcoholic’s head is where to get alcohol. It is possible to get out of this hole on your own only at the first stage, and then you need a huge incentive.

Alcoholism is a terrible disease that poisons the lives of others and relatives. A man who is addicted to alcohol does not believe that he is suffering from a chronic disease. Such a person has serious problems at work, at home, with friends.

The behavior of an alcoholic becomes inadequate and uncontrollable. During periods of hangover, he is aggressive and does not control his emotions and actions. In doing so, he can cause harm to himself and others. Mental activity decreases, health problems appear.

The thing is that constant consumption of alcohol leads to an imbalance in the chemical balance in the brain. As a result, the metabolism of dopamine, which affects the pleasure center, changes. After this, the patient will no longer be able to experience pleasure without drinking alcohol.

In addition, in order to eliminate unpleasant symptoms and enjoy everything again, you urgently need to drink something stronger.

Causes

Psychiatrists and other specialists believe that alcohol addiction does not just happen. There will always be some. It’s impossible to just become addicted to alcohol.

If we talk about the causes of male alcoholism, we can divide them into 4 main groups:

Social	The formation of the disease is greatly influenced by the social factor. The environment from childhood influences the formation of habits. If a young man’s friends often drink, then he is also prone to this process. Hanging out with dysfunctional people can have a negative impact on your future. But if a man has strong convictions about his lifestyle, he will never become an alcoholic, even under the influence of such friends.
Psychological	The psychological factor should be considered more broadly. The grief suffered can negatively affect a man’s condition. For example, the loss of parents, a beloved woman, a child - all these are terrible events. A man simply tries to forget himself with the help of alcohol. But in an attempt to escape from the problem, addiction begins.
Physiological	The physiological causes of alcoholism are an attempt to relax, relieve fatigue, etc. Under the influence of alcohol, a young man is more relaxed, easily meets girls and can have fun. When sober, he is tense. Or another option - a man works a lot and gets very tired. To relax a little every evening, he drinks a bottle of beer. Over time, the body gets used to it and requires an increase in dosage. Over time, the man becomes an alcoholic.
Genetic	If a young man has character and life principles, then the above does not apply to him in any way. Another thing is genetics. This is something that is impossible to control. To fight inclinations requires simply titanic efforts. If a man’s parents or other relatives drink, then he is at risk. Unfortunately, he cannot always resist his inclinations; such a person requires special help, understanding and support.

Symptoms and signs

Symptoms of addiction in young people are determined based on the stage of the disease. First of all, the constant craving to drink should alert you. This happens regardless of whether there is a reason.

Even 1 bottle of beer every evening is an alarm beacon. This is already an indicator of propensity. Moreover, if you tell a man about this, he will begin to deny everything, even outbursts of rage are possible.

Serious changes are also observed in the patient's behavior. He is aggressive, does not control himself in the hangover stage and when he really wants to drink. At the same time, after the “otkhodniks” it may be quite adequate, but not for long.

Problems at work due to a bad habit arise due to impaired concentration. A man will no longer be able to properly carry out serious and responsible assignments.

Relatives and friends under no circumstances need to turn away from an addicted man. This will make the situation worse.

Alone with his problem, he may fall into depression, consider himself useless and begin to drown in grief again. The result is always disastrous - death due to malfunction internal organs, most often – liver decomposition.

Therefore, relatives should be wary if a man has at least 1 of the following symptoms:

• constant craving for alcohol;
• uncontrolled drinking;
• a constant increase in the amount of drinking;
• binges;
• loss of appetite, problems sleeping;
• lack of interest in life.

All these are signs of alcoholism in a man’s behavior at the first stage. This is the time when it is easiest to stop the process. You just need to make an effort. Of course, the patient does not admit that he is an alcoholic. But you need to arouse in him a desire to live normally and show that he is needed.

The second stage is already more serious. Manifestation of symptoms alcohol addiction is as follows:

• the craving for alcohol is irresistible and occurs more and more often;
• severe hangover occurs;
• the amount of alcohol consumed increases, but it is tolerated normally;
• unbalanced behavior occurs;
• the man becomes aggressive, angry and constantly tired for no apparent reason;
• hand tremors;
• vascular networks;
• memory problems;
• paranoia.

At this stage, you cannot do without the help of a qualified psychotherapist. Because the next stage is a chronic form, in which:

• there is a constant desire to drink;
• severe attacks of aggression, expressed, appear more and more often;
• binges can last for several weeks;
• intellectual activity becomes impossible;
• there are constant memory lapses;
• degradation appears;
• hallucinations and delirium tremens.

Stages of alcoholism in men

There are 3 in men. Expressed by physical and psychological manifestations. First of all, alcohol negatively affects the central nervous system. After which the decay products penetrate into the internal organs.

Metabolic processes are disrupted. Dependence develops depending on the quantity, drink and frequency. The stages of male alcoholism are each expressed in their own way. But they have one thing in common - an uncontrollable desire to get drunk. It doesn’t matter where the man is.

First	At the first stage, a man may have a desire to drink for no reason. He gets pleasure from the process of consumption itself. He enjoys the feeling of freedom that comes from drinking. At the very beginning, a young man is still capable of self-control, but over time he gets involved in the process, and it becomes more and more difficult to stop. A man, due to his craving for alcohol, can find many reasons to get alcohol. Not a single meeting with friends, get-togethers, or late nights is complete without abuse. He simply cannot imagine that it is possible to live differently. Alcohol comes first for such a person. But close people may not always notice that something wrong is happening to a young man. One of the symptoms is changes in mood. In addition, if a man is sick and is in the first stage, then the following manifestations are observed: an emerging desire to drink for no reason; uncontrolled behavior; increasing the dosage and strength of drinks; rest without alcohol is unacceptable for him; aggression.
Second	The second stage already has more pronounced manifestations that cannot be ignored. Behavior changes greatly and depends entirely on the presence of alcohol. He can hit his wife, child, mother. He doesn't care about the opinions of his family. Problems arise at work, leading to dismissal. A person simply slides into the abyss and does not realize it. Any attempts to stop the process end in scandals and quarrels - he simply does not recognize the problem. Unfortunately, it is impossible to do without the involvement of a qualified doctor. It should be noted that already from the second stage manifestations of alcoholic delirium are possible. Popularly called delirium tremens. If you don’t fight a bad habit, then everything can end in a psychiatric hospital at best, and in the worst case, death.
Third	The third stage of alcoholism in men is already a chronic stage of the disease. Unfortunately, it is almost impossible to wean him off alcohol during this period. The disease has become so firmly integrated into life that a man can no longer imagine himself without alcohol. Interestingly, the patient continues to claim self-control. At the third stage, a man already experiences irreversible changes in his body. For example, disorders of the brain, liver, pancreas, kidneys and of cardio-vascular system. All this leads to the development of chronic diseases of internal organs. Personal changes are also typical. A man in a fit of aggression can not only beat up someone who tries to stop a drinking binge or someone who disagrees with his opinion, but also kill him. According to statistics, the majority of domestic crimes are committed precisely because of drunkenness. Alcoholic delirium in the third stage occurs almost constantly. Attacks of delirium tremens can only be stopped in a hospital setting.

How to fight?

It is possible to cure a man from alcohol addiction, but it is very difficult. At the first stage, only the help of loved ones is enough. But on the second, and especially the third, you need a doctor. Moreover, significant difficulties arise when a man does not recognize the existence of a problem. In this case, the treatment is almost forced.

Of great importance is the fact whether a man has relatives or a wife. It is important that he is not deprived of attention and feels needed.

Often, women, instead of wondering how to rid their husband of drunkenness, prefer to simply get a divorce. And this is fundamentally wrong. Such a man will drink even more heavily. The results will be much worse.

The wife must show the man that he is needed, that he is valued and loved in the family. There is no need to scandalize, threaten, or issue ultimatums - this will not help.

It is definitely important to be tolerant in a relationship. The alcoholic's environment plays a big role. At the first stage, it is enough to simply change the environment. It is imperative to “break” your husband out of the vicious circle.

If a young person is already in the second and third stages, then a consultation with a narcologist and psychotherapist is needed. But in any case, the problem cannot be ignored.

A qualified doctor will help, you just need to follow his instructions. You have to fight, otherwise you can lose your father, husband, brother, son.

Consequences

May be irreversible. The greatest danger is posed by various disorders of the internal organs. Liver decomposition is what most alcoholics die from.

Personal changes resulting from delirium tremens affect life in the most negative way. A person in an attack of hallucinations can harm anyone. In addition, under the influence of alcohol, the brain is destroyed and intellectual activity is no longer possible.

It is clear that alcohol has the worst effect on health. But the social side of life is also important. The patient may lose his job. Because of this, problems with money begin, the consequences of which are begging and wandering the streets.

Non-drinking friends turn away from alcoholics and wives leave. Loneliness is only when there are no drinking buddies. But over time, the right company is found. The result is a complete transformation into a wretched, useless, homeless-looking person.

Love is a great and bright feeling. It is capable of moving a person to great achievements, inspiring the creation of unique masterpieces and gives a person boundless happiness next to a loved one. But despite all its beautiful features, this feeling is also known for its blindness.

Often a person in love simply does not notice the flaws in his chosen one. In principle, this is not bad, since minor errors in behavior are common to everyone and it is not necessary to focus attention on them. Many couples live well together for many years, simply not paying attention to the shortcomings in their loved one.

But you can’t close your eyes to everything. Drunkenness and alcoholism can be classified as just those “shortcomings” that need to be fought, and not hidden from them behind a screen of “rose-colored glasses.”

What to do if your spouse starts drinking? Is it worth fighting for your man if he himself is not ready to change his life for the better?

Male alcoholism: symptoms and consequences

Statistics show that a third married women live with drunkards or alcoholics. Yes, there is a difference between these two concepts and it is quite noticeable, but both of them are stages of the same disease - alcoholism.

• Drunkard. This type includes a person who knows his limit of what is permissible and can stop in the midst of a “binge”, realizing that he has already drunk his dose. Men who do not replace their lives with alcohol, but often “take a sip” can also be classified as drunkards. For them, alcohol is a way to relieve nervous tension, relax and feel an emotional uplift.
• Alcoholic. This is a person who is highly dependent on alcoholic beverages. In addition to addiction, alcoholism also has obvious external manifestations, for example: swelling of the face, confusion and slurred speech. A dependent person does not need a large amount of alcohol to become thoroughly intoxicated, since the alcohol simply does not have time to be eliminated from the body. Vodka and other similar drinks often replace food for an alcoholic; he can no longer do without them, despite all the desire to put an end to such a harmful habit. In this situation, the only way out is drug treatment under the strict supervision of specialists.

If you notice that a loved one has begun to drink alcohol more often, then you should clearly understand where the line is between a drunkard and an alcoholic and act based on this knowledge. If you can still come to an agreement with a drunkard and convince him of the need to limit his drinking, then talking to an alcoholic is already useless.

Why did my husband start drinking?

When it comes to the reasons leading to the abuse of alcoholic beverages and, as a result, to alcoholism, many argue that weakness and lack of responsibility are to blame.

In principle, this opinion is correct, but these reasons are not the only ones. Various situations can lead to alcohol abuse, but some of the most common include the following:

What not to do when communicating with an alcoholic

If your spouse nevertheless succumbs to the corrupting influence of the “green serpent,” then be very careful about your words and actions. Alcoholics by nature are very unrestrained and intolerant of others. Sometimes a thoughtless action or a carelessly thrown word can lead to a family tragedy. Therefore, it is worth paying attention to common women’s mistakes when communicating with drunken spouses and taking them into account:

What to do if your husband starts drinking?

If your spouse begins to “delight” you with periodic binges and scandals provoked by a drunken, stupefied brain, then think carefully about whether you are ready to fight for him.

You really have a real battle ahead of you, and not only with the addiction itself, but also, first of all, with your own husband. It is rare that a man is able and agrees to admit the presence of problems associated with alcohol, because by admitting the existence of a problem, they automatically admit their own weakness. So, if you still decide to make every effort to save your family and fight for your loved one, then, first of all, you should convince him of the need to accept help and start treatment.

After your loved one has agreed that it’s time to change your life radically and better side, then take care of finding a qualified narcologist. No matter how much you believe in your own perseverance and your husband’s willpower, you still cannot do without the help of a doctor. The narcologist will refer your husband for examination, after which, based on the results of tests and examinations, he will be able to select the necessary procedures and medications that can facilitate the entire period of treatment.

The services of specialists working with alcoholism coding are quite popular. But doctors recommend not turning to the first person you meet; if your spouse has decided to get coded, then you should make sure that the specialist you choose is not a charlatan and self-taught. IN otherwise, your loved one has every chance of waking up in the hospital in a not very favorable condition.

Also remember the following rules that you will have to follow at all times:

• Monitor the microclimate in your family. Do not reproach your husband for his addiction, protect him from scandals and conflicts. Otherwise, he will simply lose his temper and go on a drinking binge again.
• Watch your mood. No matter how bad and sad you feel, the smile should not leave your face. Always greet your husband with joy and in a good mood. Try to joke more, be interested in his affairs, successes and failures. Let your husband feel your support and care, so he will feel calmer and more relaxed.
• Involve him in household chores. Do not give your husband the opportunity to indulge in despondency and idleness. Feel free to burden him with household chores and don’t forget to praise him for his help. The husband must feel involved and needed.
• Protect your spouse from socializing with friends who drink. Noisy companies and parties with alcohol will not help him quit drinking faster. Such temptations, on the contrary, can ruin all your efforts.

In the fight against binge drinking, you should be prepared for long and hard work on the road to recovery. You should understand that there is no escape from scandals, reproaches and quarrels, your husband will often break down and blame you for all mortal sins, but you need to be persistent and not succumb to provocations.

If you understand that you have no strength left, then do not hesitate and seek help from a psychologist. Sometimes, a competent specialist is exactly what you need to believe in yourself again. And most importantly, love your husband and surround him with care and affection, only the warmth of your love and the understanding that he is not alone will help you cope with this misfortune.

Why men drink and how to deal with it is of interest to all women who are not indifferent to the fate of their husbands and their families.

A man drinks for many reasons, but none of them can be used as an excuse.. Anyone who drinks even only on holidays is a drinker. Moreover, the reason can be any more or less famous holiday or event. Such people can be considered at risk. Of course, this problem has been around for a long time – drinking on holidays. Young people do not pay attention to special attention on each other's habits. This is not strange, since drinking has become a full-fledged part of the traditional feast. After some time, the young lady realizes that her husband drinks, and this is his illness. Many women can't stand it when men drink. Alcohol destroys the brain, leads to forgetfulness and provokes inappropriate actions.

Of course, there are a huge number of men who drink alcohol daily. Some of them remain quite sane and seemingly healthy, but most of them do not even suspect what this can lead to. Many men drinking have many diseases, but they themselves do not want to understand it. In addition, there is a class of people who gradually quietly become drunkards and do not realize it until they completely degenerate. There is an opinion that such people need qualified help - a psychologist. Nevertheless, every specialist will say that it is impossible to help a person if he himself does not want it. So, you can forcefully take drunken men to “coding”, conduct psychological sessions, hope for conspiracies and so on, but until he himself realizes that it is time for him to stop and give up alcohol, no arguments or illnesses will hold him back. In addition, psychologists in this case give completely different advice.

Circumstances that lead to becoming alcoholics

We can distinguish between external and internal aggravating reasons. External ones directly include:

1. Self-love. The psychology of a man is that you can allow your loved one to drink beer, for example, after work, as a relaxing pill. But such submission to one’s own weaknesses does not speak at all about self-love. Taking another dose of alcohol every day, a person systematically adds harm to the body.
2. Collectivism. Quite often, in offices with a large team, in order to maintain friendly relations, one cannot refuse spending time together for a bottle, otherwise you fall out of the team and understanding. Such “friendly relationships” that lead to alcoholism end mainly in loneliness.
3. Contrived circumstances. One may drink because of flaws in appearance. Another has problems in the intimate sphere. Someone's husband drinks because he thinks he's unlucky with his wife. There are men who drink because they are unfulfilled in their career. Envy also very often causes similar vices. In addition, such men like to look for a reason themselves in order to call it a super-problem and give themselves permission to “get into the bottle.”
4. Lack of strength to fight. Such pathological weakness does not appear immediately. At first, a person drinks alcohol in doses, without abuse, gradually adding a little. With the thought that he is not an alcoholic, and if he wants, he can deny himself drinking, there is simply no such need. Later there is a constant need to drink. And then the time it takes for a person to become drunk depends on the individual characteristics of the body.

Internal factors of alcohol dependence

Internal causes of alcohol addiction include:

1. The need to relax. By nature, a man is constantly in tension. This tension is aggravated by active and restless work. It is especially important for such people to take off the load after a hard day and “restart the program.” But if the situation in the house is not conducive to such relaxation, the man begins to look for other options to relieve the stress. Most often, alcohol “helps” to relax from such overloads.
2. Jealousy and spouse control. This factor complements the previous one. Permanent pressure from his wife, no matter where the man is, stresses him out even more than nervous work. Nobody likes mistrust and excessive control, especially men; it even offends them.
3. Lack of the hormone of happiness. Any man, even an avid bachelor, needs female attention, love, care and affection. A woman filled with love is able to provide the necessary energy for accomplishments. If there is no such thing in life, a man feels this lack, emptiness, loneliness and seeks relief.
4. In addition to the listed reasons why a man drinks, we can also highlight boredom, loneliness, attempts to get away from problems, mental and psychological trauma, dissatisfaction, lack of recognition, and even just harmfulness.

How to find a solution to the problem of alcoholism?

If you want to help your husband and want him to stop drinking, you first need to think it over and find the reason for his constant desire to drink. You should act carefully and carefully. In order for a person to lose interest in alcohol, his personal desire to quit drinking is necessary. Otherwise, no amount of persuasion or argument will help him overcome this illness. But to direct the thought to leave this disastrous business is already your task.

Of course, first you need to clearly determine the reason for your man’s desire to relax with a bottle. Do not forget that it may be your personal fault that he has a craving for alcohol. Perhaps it is female attention, respect and affection that he lacks. Or, on the contrary, such attention is excessive - the man has a desire to run away, hide, take a break from you. Perhaps your sexual relationship has lost its former intimacy, and he really misses this. This often happens after the birth of the first child. The woman turns her attention and tenderness to the baby, and the husband seems to fade into the background. Most men are very jealous of such situations. Not to mention the violated dignity. Powerful women with the nature of a dictator may not even notice that they are suppressing a man.

In families where there is a complete idyll, but there are no children, and the husband dreams of an heir, a problem with alcohol may also arise. If you have a child, involve the young father in caring for the baby. Firstly, so that he understands how responsible it is. And secondly, so that he too is filled with the hormone of happiness from a small miracle, which can not only distract from bad thoughts, but also exhaust him so that there is simply no strength or desire left for anything.

There may be conflicts with relatives, for example, if the family lives with the wife’s parents, and the son-in-law is not found common language with the older generation.

Help and support in difficult moments of life

If everything is fine in the family, you should pay attention to the man’s work. Of course, it will be difficult to help your husband without having anything to do with his work, but at least you can try to find out what’s wrong with him at work, what doesn’t suit him, the relationship with whom he’s worried, and give practical advice. It may be worth changing a job that does not bring satisfaction or depresses your loved one.

You can often see men walking down the street with a bottle of alcohol. Why do men drink even though they know about the dangers? alcoholic drinks on the body? Daily consumption, even in small quantities, quickly leads to alcoholism. It doesn’t matter what the stronger sex drinks – beer or spirits. Gradually he has a lot of problems and becomes a burden to his relatives. A man can no longer stop drinking on his own. What prompts him to take his first glass?

What drives men to drink?

1. Difficult emotional experiences. Men rarely show their emotions if something bothers them. Outwardly this may not be visible at all, but in fact they experience this moment stress.
2. Alcohol dulls the emotional background and, to forget, you have to resort to drinking. One bottle of beer and the illusion of well-being appears, and in the morning everything returns. At this rate, it's not far from binge drinking. The feeling of relief is short-lived, but many men continue to save themselves in this way.
3. Reproaches from loved ones. Constant nagging of a wife can lead to psychological problems, which forces a man to drink. After drinking alcohol, problems are forgotten, and intoxication can result in the use of physical force.
4. Desire to get away from problems. Problems at work and quarrels with his wife force him to buy alcohol again and again. The man himself does not notice how he begins to drink too much, and he already needs treatment for alcoholism in a clinic.
5. Low self-esteem. Shy men rarely attract girls. They begin to meet each other in clubs and cafes, where they drink to feel relaxed. It is unlikely that such a young man would have made contact if he was sober.
6. One of the reasons why men drink is regular meetings with old friends in the presence of alcohol. Stereotype “nowhere without a bottle” strengthened in the consciousness of the majority. Gradually, such meetings become commonplace and develop into alcoholism.
7. Inability to refuse. Often a man in the company of drinking friends has to give up drinking. At first it’s not difficult to resist. Then comes crucial moment When you drink one glass, it’s impossible to resist and it’s inconvenient to refuse. This is how alcoholism begins to form.

How to protect yourself from the final stage of alcoholism?

The first thing you need to do is see your internal problems. The idea that alcohol allows you to relax is a huge misconception. There are many healthy ways such as yoga, meditation, sports. If a man constantly agrees to offers to drink, this indicates the person’s immaturity. Necessary honestly admit to yourself that it is impossible to live without alcohol and ask for help. It is impossible to cope with the problem on your own.

Support from specialists is the best solution in in this case. A good psychologist will help you correct your thinking and remove patterned behavior. If alcoholism has already destroyed many areas of life (loss of job, family, trust), then it is best to go to an addiction treatment center. In a quiet environment experts help you understand yourself. Many years of experience allows us to quickly understand why men drink and offer the most optimal solution to the problem. There is no point in delaying it, because alcoholism is a progressive disease.