Why is magic drawn to a stranger? Energy interaction between people. What to do about it

Throughout their lives, everyone has experienced an irresistible attraction to another person at least once. Many people are concerned about the question of where this feeling comes from and how to react to it correctly? Attraction can arise at the wrong time or to a stranger, or even to someone who does not evoke much sympathy. To understand how to deal with this feeling, you need to know the reasons why you are attracted to a person and how the mechanisms of attraction work.

The subconscious is primarily responsible for the occurrence of attraction, so at first it is difficult for people to give an adequate answer why they are drawn to to a certain person. Attraction is accompanied by a strong hormonal release, which puts the brain in a state of euphoria and love. Why does this outburst happen? The reasons can be roughly divided into physiological and psychological.

Physiological reasons	Psychological reasons
Sexual hunger (prolonged absence of sexual intercourse).	The need for intimacy, emotionally close relationships.
Stress, need for relaxation.	Personal attitudes and values ​​(upbringing, outlook on life, goals and needs that the brain reads instantly).
Procreation (the only goal is conception).	Defense mechanisms (what we most need, what we fear).
Pleasure (receiving physical pleasure).	Habit (constant repetition of sexual actions leads to their automatic, uncontrolled commission).

If a girl is attracted to someone who is domineering dominant man Most likely, her parental family had a patriarchal system, so she is looking for a patron like a father.

If a man is attracted to a woman who is aggressive and disrespectful, then perhaps his mother was harsh and harsh. In this case, the man’s subconscious models the usual stereotype of building relationships between a man and a woman.

Attraction to a stranger is associated with a set of attitudes that are firmly entrenched in a person’s head. The brain selects the most suitable personality based on these criteria, then the chemical reaction. At the level of consciousness, people decide whether a given person is really suitable for them; character, profession, goals, temperament, financial situation, etc. are taken into account.

When a person experiences stress for a long time or does not have sexual intimacy, then attraction can be formed on pure physiology, since sex is the simplest way relieve tension and get a dose of the happiness hormone.

Important!

Attraction and falling in love are not love. Many people confuse these concepts, since attraction can be strong. But gradually the hormonal levels return to normal and people are no longer so attracted to each other. They begin to soberly assess the situation, and another question arises: why this particular person? Some people manage to make mistakes.

If you are attracted to the wrong person?

Why are you attracted to a certain man or woman if this is not the person you would like to be with? When attraction arises to a dishonest person, rude, insecure, broken, this means that unconscious mechanisms built on complexes, fears, and blocks are working inside you. To stop the action of these mechanisms, it is necessary to understand for what reason and for what purpose they were launched, and to reset the values.

If a person, more often a woman, is in a state of Victim, he will automatically look for a Tormentor. They become insecure and complex people who need to dominate someone in order to assert themselves. Victim - the best option. To get out of this vicious circle, the Victim needs to enter the position of the Author. Then she will no longer need the Tormentor.

Advice!

Don't take attraction as a sign of fate. Attraction to another person is just a small push that may or may not begin a strong wonderful feeling and a strong relationship for years to come.

Wrong time

There are situations where people feel attracted to other people when they are already in a relationship with someone else. What to do if you are drawn to a person at such an inopportune time? First, find out the reason. They may be as follows:

• lack of love and emotional intimacy in existing relationships;
• lack of sexual intimacy, dissatisfaction with sexual intimacy;
• destructive relationships (collapsed to the ground; presence of inappropriate behavior on the part of the partner);
• crisis (grinding in, birth of a child, crisis at 3 years, 7 years, 12 and 25 years of marriage);
• intrapersonal crisis (age or life, turning points in life).

Based on the reason, you decide what to do. If you decide to maintain an existing relationship, then you need to work on it. You can do this alone or with a partner. The problem definitely needs to be solved before it increases tenfold.

Behavior strategy, problem solving options

Possible behavior when you are strongly attracted to a person can be divided into two categories: if you want intimacy with him, and if you do not want intimacy. When nothing is stopping you and you are ready to try to get closer, consider the following tips:

• get to know the person you like better, do not rush to draw conclusions about him;
• define for yourself the criteria for choosing a life partner, what kind of person he should be, what you will not tolerate;
• try to establish friendly relations.

If you have established a negative cause for the attraction that has arisen, then begin to work on eliminating this cause. Pay attention to the recommendations:

• try to distance yourself from the object of passion;
• don't focus on the feeling;
• engage in self-development.

Is it possible that the person you are magnetically attracted to is the love of your life? Yes, it's possible. Is this necessarily the case? No, not necessarily. Does the attraction go away? Yes, passion always subsides, hormones calm down, and if there is no love and acceptance in this place, then there will be emptiness there.

Any relationship has various options developments of events. Much depends on people: whether they accept themselves and their partner, whether they work on problems. Unconscious impulses play an important role in human life, but with the help of reason, people can control their instincts and make informed decisions.

In the Universe, in order to maintain spiritual and material energy balance, energy exchange constantly and continuously occurs. This circulation of energy takes place within the framework of the law on conservation of energy.
Communication is essentially an energy exchange. The energy generated by a person is given to the outside. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from the outside. Hence the need to communicate.

People communicate for personal gain. During interaction between people, an energy exchange occurs - one gives, the other receives and vice versa. If people like each other, then an intense energy exchange occurs between them. At the same time, both enjoy communication.

Even if two people experiencing mutual attraction do not speak, feigning indifference, their energy fields are still drawn to each other. As they say, “I’m drawn to him.”

During communication between two people, channels are formed between their auras through which energy flows flow in both directions. The streams can be any color and take any shape (they can be seen with extrasensory perception abilities).

Energy channels connect the auras of partners through the corresponding chakras, depending on the type of communication:
Muladhara(base chakra) - relatives.
Svadhisthana(gender chakra) - lovers, married couple, fun friends, relatives.
Manipura(umbilical chakra) - relatives, employees, subordinates, superiors, sports friends and those with whom you enter into competition.
Anahata(heart chakra) - objects of emotional interaction, these are the people we love. For the harmonious development of relations between a man and a woman, it is necessary to have a channel along the sex chakra (svadhisthana).
Vishuddha(throat chakra) - like-minded people, colleagues, etc.
Ajna(frontal chakra) - imitation and adoration of an idol, sect leader, etc. Hypnotic channels, suggestion of thoughts. Telepathic connection with another person.
Sahasrara(crown chakra) - connection only with egregors (collectives, religious communities, sects, football fan clubs, political ideology, etc.)

The more passionate the partners are about each other, the stronger and more active the channels are formed.

During the formation of close, trusting relationships, all chakras are gradually connected by channels. It is in this way that strong relationships arise that are not subject to distance or time. For example, a mother always feels her child, no matter where he is, and no matter how many years have passed since their last meeting. It also happens that, meeting an old acquaintance after many years, a person feels as if they parted just yesterday.

Channels can persist for a very long time - years, decades and move from incarnation to incarnation. That is, channels connect not only bodies, but also souls.

Healthy relationships form bright, clear, pulsating channels. In such relationships there is trust, intimacy, sincerity and there is enough room for personal freedom. Here there is an equivalent exchange of energy, without distortions.

If the relationship is unhealthy, that is, one partner depends on the other, then the channels are heavy, stagnant, and dim. Such relationships deprive people of freedom and often boil down to mutual irritation and bitterness.

If one partner wants to completely control the other, the channels can wrap around the aura on all sides.

When relationships gradually die, the channels become thinner and weaker. Over time, energy stops flowing through these channels, communication stops, people become strangers.

If people separate, but the channels are still preserved, then they continue to reach out to each other. It also happens when one partner cuts off communication channels and closes himself off from further interaction, while the other partner is still attached to him and tries in every possible way to break through the energy defense in order to restore the relationship.

In the process of forcibly breaking the channels, the separation is very painful. It takes many months or years to recover from this. Here, much depends on how ready a person is to accept the free will of another and free himself from dependence developed over a long time.

Most channels built in everyday communication disappear without a trace over time. In the case of close relationships, channels remain for a very long time; even after separation, some channels remain. Particularly strong channels arise during sexual and family relationships.

In this fragment you will see an indicative experiment that proves the presence of energy channels between people who have been in a relationship for a long time:

Each time you have sexual contact with a new partner, new channels are formed along the sex chakra, connecting people for many years, or even throughout their entire subsequent lives. In this case, it does not matter at all whether the sexual partners managed to learn each other’s names - in the case of sexual contact, a channel is formed and lasts for a very long time. And if there is a channel, then there is a circulation of energy along it. And what quality of energy comes is difficult to say, it depends on the characteristics of the other person’s field. To sleep or not to sleep, and if to sleep, then with whom, is, of course, up to you to decide. It's good when this happens consciously.

It is believed that the strongest channels are the parent ones. But there may be options here too.

In people who live nearby for a long time, energy fields (auras) adapt to each other and work in unison. Intimate relationships require field synchronization. We often notice that people who live together for a long time become similar to each other even in appearance.

If the characteristics of the auras of two individuals are very different, then it will be difficult for them to communicate. When energy flows that are alien to it invade the field, a reaction of repulsion, fear, and disgust appears. “It makes me sick.”

When a person does not want to communicate with someone, he closes his energy field, and all energy flows emanating from the other person are reflected. In this case, the other person gets the impression that he is not being heard, as if he is talking to a wall.

During an illness, the patient’s energy field weakens, and he unconsciously replenishes the missing energy at the expense of those who are nearby. This happens automatically. Healthy people feed the sick. This is part family life: first I will help you, then you will help me. If the illness is prolonged and severe, all family members may feel its devastating impact. Over time, they will feel tired and reluctant to care for the patient. At such moments, it is very important to be able to replenish your own energy reserves. You cannot devote all your time only to caring for the patient; you need to be distracted. Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication with friends, and entertainment can come to the rescue.

Negative emotions (anger, envy, jealousy, etc.) directed towards another person pierce his aura with a dark energy flow. In this case, there is a leakage of energy in favor of the aggressor. A person whose aura is polluted by imperfect thinking, dislike or despondency is unable to receive energy from external space, and he replenishes his energy hunger at the expense of other people. This is the so-called energy vampirism.

A vampire can be active. In this case, he takes energy from another person through the active release of negativity in his direction. These are, as a rule, brawlers, conflict-ridden people, constantly grumbling and embittered. If, in response to such a person’s malicious attack, you responded emotionally - you became upset, angry - then your energy flowed towards him. It turns out that the main defense is calmness and ignoring.

Extremely negative interactions can cause such severe destruction of the field that a person will have to recover for a long time. Some aura healing processes occur automatically. In this case they say: “time heals.” But some wounds leave behind lifelong scars that can be carried into future lives. People in this case tend to avoid pain and protect their wounds with energetic and psychological blocks.

It remains to be said that channels can connect not only two people, channels can connect a person with an animal, plant or any inanimate object. For example, many people are familiar with the feeling of longing for a place or home where important events took place. A person can become attached to his car, a child to his toy.

In the event of a dependence on an object to which strong but unhealthy energy channels, such channels are usually called . Bindings block a person’s free will and disrupt the energy balance. We will talk about bindings in the next article.

Poets called this state love at first sight, when a guy and a girl, having barely met, feel an unprecedented attraction. Scientists today are studying this phenomenon and putting forward several assumptions about the nature of such feelings.

The article discusses the most famous of them.

Why a man is attracted to a woman: biology

Smell

According to this theory, each person secretes special substances - pheromones. They have virtually no odor, but affect the olfactory receptors, which send a signal to the brain. He, in turn, unconsciously interprets them as an attractive aroma, and the person becomes interesting as a partner.

Women and men have different types pheromones, the intensity of which increases during periods of abstinence, good mood, etc.

Eye contact

Another theory suggests that people are attracted to each other by staring at each other. In the animal world, the latter is a signal of danger, awakening a zone in the brain that decides to approach an object or move away. A person perceives this shake-up as a state of falling in love.

This assumption is supported by a study by American scientists, where they asked subjects to look into the eyes of their interlocutor. At stare many noted the emergence of pleasant feelings for their counterparts.

Why one is drawn to a person: psychology

At one time the founder modern psychology Z. Freud tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and young men are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.

At the same time, people are not able to see this similarity, but intuitively strive to find a partner who matches the parent’s psychotype. It is not without reason that acquaintances often note how much the bride resembles the groom’s mother in her youth.

Opposites Attract

Another idea explains attraction by the desire to compensate for one’s own shortcomings with the strengths of a partner. And having met an object that has the necessary qualities, a person experiences tender feelings for him, called the state of falling in love.

Love in return

Seeing Special attention on the part of a man towards his person, a woman feels most desirable and perfect for this man. An unconscious desire arises to answer him in kind, the girl is drawn to the guy. The result is a mutual feeling. The same is true in the reverse situation: a man falls in love with a lady who adores him.

It is impossible to say that one or another theory is the most correct, therefore each of them has the right to exist.

Sometimes, you travel on the subway or bus and observe an interesting picture: a neatly and beautifully dressed woman enters and no one pays attention to her. Another woman will come in, dressed more modestly and completely inconspicuously, and all the men’s heads will turn to look at her. Why is this happening? Why do people pay attention to each other? Where do people get attracted to each other? System- vector psychology gives answers to these questions.

What plays the main role when choosing a partner?

If you study the information provided system-vector psychology, it becomes clear that we are attracted to each other not by appearance, but by smells. At first it may seem that this is not the case and people pay attention to those who dress brightly. This opinion has developed because people who dress brighter than others, as a rule, have the brightest smell. On the mental level we express emotions, and on the physical, bodily level - smells. That is why dogs sense when a person is afraid, to the smell of fear, unknown to our consciousness, and the animal reacts.

How do we pay attention to each other? The answer is given by system-vector psychology.

How do we still notice a person? It turns out that everything happens through our nose, and not our eyes at all, and these are not pleasant smells, for example, emanating from Jadore from Dior, which are so noticed by people, especially with a visual vector, but pheromones, which through the zero nerve go straight into the unconscious, into the area of ​​the brain that is responsible for attraction to each other. This is the vomeronasal organ, which is responsible for both attraction and ranking.

System-vector psychology: why we are attracted to each other

It's not the brightest girls that attract men. Men notice those who smell “attractive.” The brightest scent belongs to the most emotional of all women - the skin-visual beauty. The more she shows and brings her emotions out, the brighter she smells and the more noticeable she is to those around her. The brightest of all is the one who completely brought out her fear in the form of love and compassion. She became the leader's mate.

System-vector psychology shows how visual-cutaneous girls differ from others, in particular in their demonstrativeness. It is thanks to the program they developed that we have a culture, a sense of empathy and compassion for our neighbors. They are the ones who, as a rule, demonstrate themselves in front of cameras and look at us from television screens and magazine covers. They are better than others at identifying stylish clothes and fashion, and are better than others at distinguishing colors and smells.

System-vector psychology: the reason for dating is always a woman

Acquaintance always happens because of a woman. Everyone, except the skin-visual one, releases their scent to one specific type of man - and he suddenly feels attracted to her. He suddenly desires her, distinguishes her from all other women and wants to get to know her, and not anyone else. In other cases, men simply do not notice them.

(c) Systemic vector psychology of Yuri Burlan

Last update:6/02/17

What happens if you like someone right away?

You feel drawn to this person. You want to get to know him better. At the same time, you don’t have to force yourself, everything goes by itself, without much effort. You get in touch with him easily. And before you know it, a romance has already begun.

As a rule, in such cases people cannot resist the voice of the heart and act without thinking. You could say they fly like moths to a light.

If you liked someone at first sight, if you are attracted to some person, get to know him, date for your own pleasure. But don't make premature conclusions about possible relationships in the future, don't take it too seriously.

You may not have a good relationship with the person you were immediately drawn to. And with that person who did not make a special impression on you at the first meeting, on the contrary, a long and, moreover, happy life together is possible.

Ask your friends who are couples how they started dating: were they fascinated by each other at first sight, or did the first meeting mean nothing to them?

You will be convinced that from the first meeting none of them imagined how this acquaintance would end.

Of course, it also happens that you can develop a strong relationship with someone to whom you are immediately drawn. But this is a rare case; it is not without reason that such stories become legends. “They lived happily ever after”... Well, you know how such stories end.

More often than not, relationships that start off stormy quickly fizzle out. So straw in the wind instantly flares up, burns brightly, and then immediately burns out, not giving anyone any warmth.

If something like this has happened to you before, you know what I'm talking about.

Of course, I'm not telling you to avoid people you're attracted to. Listen to the voice of your heart, but at the same time think about why you are drawn to this particular person.

Women are like magpies, they are attracted to everything that glitters and shines. How easy it is to make a mistake here! Try to get to know the person better before jumping headfirst into the pool. Men often make the same mistake when they find themselves at a party where there are a lot of free women, they immediately pay attention to the most beautiful and vibrant women, without noticing that nearby there are equally beautiful, but more modest women.

There is only one piece of advice: do not turn away immediately if you are not attracted to a certain person. Give a chance to someone who didn't interest you when you first met, and it may turn out that over time you will discern in him traits that will attract you to him.

Don't rush to conclusions. Having seen a person once, you cannot judge his attractiveness. Moreover, you cannot make predictions for the future if at the first meeting you felt that you were drawn to the person.

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